What is the deal on anal sex toys?
It doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re gay or twisted if you like anal stimulation. After all, there are many nerve endings in the anus that have plenty of pleasurable sensations to give but preconceived notions and myths often leave them neglected. There are anal sex toys for every level of user. The important thing to remember is not to let myths and broad stereotypes keep you from your own experimentation. So get out there, read up, talk to your partner (unless you’re going at it alone) and at least give it anal sex toys a try. You’ll either love it or hate it. In any case need to know first hand.
So you’ve taken the first step and decided to try it out. Now what? You should also be in touch with your body signals. Communication with you and your body (If you decided to try them out solo) and your partner is paramount for safe play with an anal sex toy. It is important to approach it the right way so first we’ll start with selecting your toy.
Please keep in mind that just because it is an anal sex toy doesn’t mean it is safe. As with any market, there are individuals out there just wanting to make some quick cash. There is a disclaimer on the packaging that it is “for novelty use only”. This basically allows anyone to market any sort of gadget at the expense of your health and safety.
An anal sex toy has a variety of types, shapes and sizes. You can find them available as vibrators, dildos, anal beads, or butt plugs. As with any anal sex toy, always make sure it has a flared base. You don’t want to lose the toy as your excitement gets the best of you.
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rators have been around for quite some time. They’ve definitely evolved over the years. The simple fact is that they are designed for stimulation through the use of varied vibrations. Vibrators can stimulate the anal region just as well, if not better, than the vaginal or penile areas. Some are straight and smooth while others are curved a bit. The curvature is generally promoted as a ‘G-Spot’ tickler or as an anal sex toy that can stimulate to man’s prostate.
Dildos are made out of plastic and are used for insertions into the vagina and/or anus. They are usually flexible and textured. Some come with a vibrator built in to add extra stimulation.
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nal beads are an anal sex toy for men and women. They can be used solo or with another. They are a good introduction for an anal sex beginner. The beads are smooth, round knobs constructed of plastic or silicone. Some say resemble strand of pearls as the beads are connected to each other like a necklace with a string-like material and a ring or handle affixed to one end. Others can be similar to a dildo. Some are soft while others can be textured and rigid. They are inserted one at a time (gently!) into the anus and usually pulled out (by using the handle) during orgasm.
Butt plugs provide another way of enjoying anal sex. By inserting a butt plug you can relax the muscles for intercourse and provide better stimulation during oral or vaginal sex.
As with any type of sex, people’s experiences are varied. One thing to keep in mind is to remain relaxed. A warm bath may also help ease the anal muscles. Because the anus doesn’t produce its own lubrication, there is a potential for rips and tears of the anal tissue. Lubrication is also a must with any anal sex adventure. There are a few to choose from. Water or silicone based lubes are the most common. Personal preference will tell you which feel and consistency you prefer. Stay away from any desensitizing gels. They tend to numb the area of application making it difficult to feel any pain. Pain isn’t good, but it can tell you when you’re doing something wrong. Just remember to take it slow and gentle and your own hands-on research and experimentation will allow you to enjoy hours of safe, enjoyable anal sex.